When you are going through a renovation, there are so many things that pull you in all different directions, it does make you wonder how limber of a person are you? AND I do mean physically as well as mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Limber is defined as: bending readily, flexible or pliant. The opposite of limber is: stiff, rigid, unbending.
Be Physically Limber - Seriously. If you are going through a renovation, you need to be physically able to handle it--even if you hiring the work to be done. There will be late evenings deciding things, talking through issues and inconveniences of schedules. There will be lack of sleep, changes in diet and physical stress and strain. If you physically don't think you can handle all of that, then don't start a renovation until you think you can because even if you have all the money in the world, and the perfect "subject" in a house, there will be a physical toll taken on your body. You have to know if you can adapt physically to all the changes because it will not just be a few days or even weeks in a major renovation. Months will be involved. Can you handle that type of strain for a month or more?
Be Mentally Limber - You will need to remember things...lots of things! Deadlines, times and dates of arrivals of things, remember what you have to spend on what portion of the renovation, who is doing what in the renovation and much more. Since it is YOUR renovation, it is YOUR responsibility to remember all those important things so you can be sure your team is on pace and not forgetting things, too. Also, you will need to maybe think about solutions or ways of doing things you didn't expect. You can't have a "my way or the highway" mental state because you don't know everything that can happen in all situations and you may need to see another way to make your dream come true. You have to be open minded to other peoples' ideas and suggestions.
Be Emotionally Limber - I expected that I would be an emotional mess prepping to move, figuring things out and planning what I wanted in a reno, but, I didn't think of how it might affect my husband emotionally. The week that we were moving, my husband had some news about his employment that was a bit unsettling and that affected everything else after the move for a while because of his stress level, which affected his emotional state and mine as well. I had to make a conscience decision to not just react emotionally, but to stay level headed as best as I could. Emotions can really throw us for a loop if we let them control things around us. You need to be able to bend with big things that are upsetting and not let something overtake and break you emotionally. If you can't do that, then a reno isn't for you. Because along with the great mountain tops of happiness are the big valleys of disappointments at times. You need to be able to survive them both.
Be Spiritually Limber - In a renovation, you will be dealing with all sorts of people who handle all sorts of things differently. Who people are and how they respond to life may have absolutely nothing to do with the job they do and it may not affect you or your project at all. But, sometimes, when you are working closely with someone, you get to know them a bit more than you expect and you may find yourself becoming friends with those you work with on some level or another. But, even then, you need to keep your objective distance. You can't judge personal life habits or ideas. You can and do have the right to judge work situations and issues, and you need to be able to speak about something that needs to change or happen work wise without feeling like you are going to hurt your "friend's" feelings. You don't need to be harsh or ugly, but, it is a working relationship after all. Remember, they might not agree with everything you stand for or believe in either but, if they are coming to work every day ready to work and pleasant to be around, then they deserve the same courtesy from you. You need to "live and let live" spiritually in this case for sure. Being around others different than ourselves can teach us so much about who we are and what we stand for as a person. It forces us to see things in a different light and understanding. When we live in a shell of our way of believing is the only way in life, we miss out on some things maybe we need to learn from someone else. I truly believe people are put in our path for a number of different reasons and even a working relationship can be one of those paths that we are meant to cross. After the job is done, you will come out on the other side having been changed by the job and the people you worked with. If that isn't spiritual, I don't know what is!