After the Moving blogs and the Renovation blogs, I was wracking my brain trying to think of what to write that pertains to your home AND that I know something about. I figured I can't tell everyone how to raise their children (because my children are all grown and I am still in shock and awe that they survived my parenting, let alone are great human beings in spite of it!) and I am not really great at keeping house, or decorating or cooking or...well you get where I am going with this. BUT, I am an AMAZING procrastinator! I finally have perfected the best use of it and also, after 53 years, I have figured out how to control it (a bit) and I can now share my vast knowledge of this subject with YOU so you can be liberated from the stigma that comes with the title "Procrastinator".
1. OWN IT - The first thing you need to do is ADMIT you put stuff off. Don't try to hide it with excuses (I am a busy person, I just forgot, I would have done it except something came up etc...), just come clean. They say, when you finally own up to something, that is the first step in healing. However, sometimes we have to own up to things we may NEVER EVER change about ourselves. A procrastinator is usually something you are from birth and more than likely it will be something you are until the end. So if procrastination is a birth-given trait, why do we look so negatively at it? Because some of us haven't mastered it and made it our slave--yet! How can we if we won't even admit that we procrastinate?!
2. USE IT -There are times that procrastinating is actually a necessary thing. When you realize you have this trait, one of the tricky things is knowing when and when not to put something off. Let's use shopping as an example. This is a good way to use procrastination. It can curb impulse buying! If you wait a day or two, you may find you don't even need a certain item that you thought you couldn't live without! Or how about procrastinating having a harsh conversation with someone? Maybe later, you won't feel so angry and you will keep from damaging a relationship with harsh words or actions. Also, sometimes our friends or family needs something from us and putting off something else that isn't as important is really the best thing to do. So procrastinate for a good reason.
3. CONTROL IT - When procrastinating is out of fear, it keeps us from doing things we really need to face. You need to recognize and learn to control it during those times. Just because you put off things in the past that maybe you shouldn't have, doesn't mean you will make the same mistakes forever. Resolve to not do that anymore. Make boundaries as to what is "acceptable" to put off and what isn't. I keep lists of what to do each day for my job and for my home life. Sometimes, things go off the rails and I can't accomplish everything on my list, so I have to "put off" something for another time. I just add it to the next days list of tasks. I rarely go through a whole week and keep something put off for that long. Also, procrastinating when it comes to your or someone you love's health, those can have dire circumstances at times and you don't want that. Resolve to NEVER EVER put off something that is life changing or even threatening.
It's hard to own something about ourselves that seems negative. It's also hard to learn to use that seemingly negative trait for something good. But, as you practice putting your procrastination in your pocket and make it do what you need it to do, it will just get better and better. Trust me...I am an expert at it!