Life is full of change. You can't escape it. From the time we take our first breath, until we breathe our last, we are in a constant state of change. A lot of changes happen with little notice, but, some can throw us and our lives upside down. How do we deal with that? What helps us cope? All I know is what has helped me...and how I have handled it. Maybe some of my life's changes can help give you some insights for yours.
In Your Body - We all have changes in our bodies all the time, but there are bigger ones we all talk about (puberty) and try to prepare our children for. BUT--no one really talks about the changes when you are having babies--not just what happens to a new mom, but what about a new dad? What changes in his body happen? Not only does the exhaustion of a new family just make you tired, it can make you forget. It can make you cranky, it can make you eat more--and gain weight. As we age, there are more changes. These start after your teen years, not at thirty like all kids think! Sometimes we will need glasses when we don't expect it, or need medicine for a condition we never had before. When these different changes happen to us--we feel like we are the only ones going through a change, but we aren't. ALL OF US go through changes all the time. One way of coping with body changes is to learn as much as you can about that change--knowledge helps get rid of fear--and in turn we learn how others have dealt with those changes. Before you know it, you are accepting that change and moving on. Remember: Knowledge is power.
In Your Home - Changes in our homes come in different ways. It can be emotional like a child moving out, losing a loved one in our home or divorce. It can be a simple change like the start of summer vacation or the end of it; changing our daily routine and schedule. Even a change in a job situation can change the emotional feeling in your home. Like switching from a day shift to night shift can make your time with your loved can become more of a challenge to spend quality time together. Also physical changes can create stress in your home. Moving, renovating or some sort of disaster like a fire or flood or just something not working correctly in your home all make changes. Some are changes that are expected --those usually we cope with a little quicker and easier than those we don't expect. Our brains remind us of what is coming and we start to change along with the expected ones. Like shopping for fall school supplies or when to plan summer vacations. But coping with unexpected loss or a breakdown of something in our homes, can cut us to the core and make us feel like our "safe place" (our home) isn't so safe anymore. Things like fixing a furnace might be fixed in a day, but paying for that fix might take a while and cause stress in a home. The best way to cope with these changes usually just takes time. Time to deal with things financially or heal emotionally, or adjust to a new way of living. When we face these things, give yourself TIME. Remember: Time heals all wounds--or at least helps us deal with the changes.
In Your Life - Life in general will always be full of changes. Like job changes, school changes, income changes, neighborhood changes and family changes. With all this change, there will be exciting times in our lives and stressful times. When changes slow, sometimes we can be bored waiting for the next change. The main thing I want to share is: You are not alone. We ALL experience this during the course of our lives. If you are feeling upset by a certain change in your life, help someone out with a change they are dealing with. Sometimes just taking the focus off of ourselves helps us see things more clearly. If you don't know anyone going through anything that you can help with, pray for someone that you don't know who might be going through what you are going through...somehow this "letting go" of our changes makes us feel a bit more powerful by helping in one way or another, someone else. Sometimes the best way to cope, is to care for others...there is nothing like it. Remember: we all need each other.