New Environment Weirdness – When you move everything feels “weird” or a little “off”.
INDOORS: You have different rooms to go through, stuff in different places and especially new sounds to enjoy!I don’t know about all of you, but just having a different refrigerator was an adjustment with the different sounds it makes.It can be quite startling at first!Our last move we joked that the fridge was haunted.So, when we got our new fridge here, I wasn’t too worried about all the weird noises so much.However, we did get an older home (with a basement) and I forgot how much older homes floors creak and…. squeal.Of course, the first time I heard it was when my husband was out of town, at night, in the dark.It sounded like someone was in the house!But, I quickly realized it was just the floor in my bedroom.Why didn’t we hear it sooner? Who knows!But it was WEIRDNESS.
OUTDOORS: Then there is the adjustment to your new yard.We moved from a place that had no trees to a house that looks like it was dropped in the middle of a forest in some ways.Big, huge trees right next to the house!I have lived by trees before, but none this big—this close—to the house.All the sounds that comes with rustling leaves, the critters, the mess of acorns falling all over your back patio and your roof(and sometimes hitting you in the head when you take your dog outside!) are all new things to adjust to.
Who are These People? – Adjusting to the new people in your neighborhood may take a minute or several.Moving to a larger city from a rural small town, was more of an adjustment than I had expected.I mean, this isn’t the first big town I have lived in!However, it was the first one in a long time.Where we moved from, everyone waves at everyone!It doesn’t matter if you know who they are or not.You wave when you take a walk, you wave at passing cars as you drive by—you wave at your neighbors across the road!Here, they don’t wave.My husband and I just keep on waving.We figure we’ll get someone to wave back at some point!One nice lady who walks her dog all over our huge neighborhood waves every time…it’s a beginning.The way we adjusted the last time was to use our imagination with our surroundings.One guy walked his dog every morning (it was a poodle) and our dogs did not like it, so we said that “Frenchy” was our dogs’ nemesis.A house on our block seemed like no one was home very much and the yard and landscaping was amazing.The only time we saw them was when the yard needed maintenance.So we joked they were spies or in witness protection!Silly I know, and we could actually have walked down the street to meet them, but, it was fun to speculate. It made our surroundings a little more interesting.However, I encourage light hearted imaginings of your neighbors—focusing on nice quirks, not ugly ones.It some how makes all the strange faces not seem so strange.Makes you feel a little safer.
Dwell on the Good – If your move has really been a struggle, my biggest suggestion is to dwell on the good.This was really something I didn’t do well with the last time and have turned it around this time.At the last place, every single time something went wrong (or bugged me) in the ‘hood or our home, it was a reinforcement of everything I hated there.I would even say out loud the long list of grievances I had! This made it take a lot longer to adjust. But, this move, I have focused on what makes this place special.The deer families we have in our yard nearly on a daily basis, the peacefulness of this neighborhood (even if it is huge –and in a large city) and the privacy our neighbors have given us.When something doesn’t work right, I chalk it up to “home ownership” and get it fixed or dealt with.We have had some kids come with fundraisers to our door and have tried to support what we can (I worry my husband has painted a huge red “S” for “sucker” on our house so all the kids know where to go now)!It’s all made things much easier to adjust to.Even if you haven’t lived in your ‘hood for long, think like you have.Before you know it, it will feel like you have always been there and have known your neighbors forever.AND, who knows, you might get some waving at you before you know it!