For the month of March, with Spring just waiting in the wings, I have decided I am going to do a series on GROWTH.
First things first, what exactly is growth? According to Dictionary.com it is: Full development; maturity. An increase, as in size, number, value or strength. It's a term we use all the time, but, I think we don't really realize the value when something has truly grown. I hope in the next few weeks we'll all gain some perspective on what it truly means to GROW.
In Our Attitude - To try to achieve some maturity, value and strength to our lives, we need to help our attitudes to grow in that direction. Having a childish attitude about any given situation (even if you think it's justified) doesn't help us mature in our thinking. Having a thought process or attitude that weakens us in other ways won't help us to grow personally. To help something grow it needs to be fed and watered properly--not just whenever you might remember to do it, but, consistently. So we need to work on our attitudes about ourselves, about others and about life in general, consistently. The more we strive for a more positive outlook, the more we will grow personally.
In Our Actions - Also, to help our own, personal growth, we need to grow in our actions. We need to handle situations in our lives with maturity. All of us can look back at possibly how silly we would react to certain situations when we were young. Maybe you easily blew up when something didn't go your way, or maybe you would dig in your heels and not be helpful because you didn't want to--whatever it was--most of us can look back and see how far we have come. But, what are we doing NOW to move forward? What are some things you can do that shows you have gained maturity in your life? How about when you decide to take on something that is out of your comfort zone because it is the right thing to do, or maybe it is to take a first step to let an old anger "go" so you can move on in your life. Maybe it's standing up for someone who needs some help. We all need to find ways to make something of value increase and to help us to gain strength in our character.
In Our Acquaintances - Another way to grow personally is to grow in our connections with others. Maybe you are a loner and you just aren't comfortable being around a lot of people. By making a point to be nice to those you encounter, to connect with others, it will help your personal growth in ways you might never expect. It may help you learn about someone else's culture, so you don't fear something you don't understand. It may help your compassion, to see how others may be going through things you have been fortunate to not go through or even see things in common that you can relate to and share something positive to that person. With our good friends, generally we don't need to be told to connect with them. That is our true comfort zone. But, in connecting with those we don't know all that well, it can cause us to learn so much more about who we are, who they are and open our hearts and minds to things we might never have thought to. Expand your connections in general with others. This will bring value, maturity and strength to your life.
In Our Acceptance - In order to truly grow personally, we need to accept ourselves "as is" before we can truly grow. For instance: when you buy a property "as is", that means you accept it as it is and that the seller isn't going to do much (if anything) to fix it. You agree to purchase it warts and all. But, most of the time when someone buys a property that is "as is", they do so with some plans to fix it's issues! They don't usually just say "eh, I don't care" when it's about one of the biggest purchases they will make! They DO care and find out what all needs to be done to make that house a home. We need to be that way with ourselves. We need to accept WHO we are, warts and all, but NEVER give up the dreams of making ourselves a better version of what we are right now. To always be willing to maintain our health and welfare in a way that is positive and good and not to neglect the care that we need for our minds, body and our spirit. Only when we truly accept ourselves "as is" will we see the true potential for growth we all have in our hearts!
Until Next Time!
Jen Lush, Associate Realtor and Mother of Managing Realtor