"Around a flowering tree are many insects." Proverb from Guinea.
All of us can agree that this is a true proverb. In fact, we are seeing a lot of this already! It's not even the heart of summer yet and the bugs are flying all over the place...as well as the pollen. Is anyone else having issues with that?! I digress. Bugs and allergies are not truly what this blog is about...
As I thought of this proverb, I thought of the beauty of the flowering trees. My spirit just comes alive when I see trees all bloomed out in their colorful glory in the Spring! When we begin to experience success in our lives, it lifts our spirits as well. We feel happy. We feel amazing! So, if success is like a flowering tree, what ARE the insects?
Success Brings Good "Pests" - When you are becoming successful, or are successful, there are things that happen that can be unsettling, but, are good issues to have. First, you may be making decisions you haven't had to make before. Let's say you got a promotion. In your new position comes new responsibilities and sometimes that can be intimidating. Also your success can bring inspiration to others and it can eat at your time trying to mentor someone or help them out, but, it's a good issue to have. It means you are helping someone make a difference in their lives for them and their families. Success may force you into making a big decision in your life that you haven't had to face because you couldn't afford it, like shopping for a new car, deciding what to renovate on your home, what home to buy or what house to build! All of us can laugh and say, "Oh what a terrible dilemma to have!" but in truth, even if they are good things, it can bring a lot of stress into your life when you move, or have to make the best decisions for everyone involved.
Success Brings Bad "Pests" - Along with success, there are bad things that can eat away at you and make you begin to hate your success just like certain kinds of insects can destroy a tree. Most successful people are VERY BUSY people. They have to be diligent with their time to become successful and then to keep that success. This may mean sacrificing time with family or friends. This may make it harder to keep good tabs on your health. There will be people around you who don't like that you are successful and therefore won't like YOU. These people might go out of their way to try to make you miserable, unhappy or even try to destroy your success. Then there will be others that just want to sail on your coat tails. They don't want to work hard to do what they need to be successful, they will just hang around you and glean all your success until it runs out, or it gets hard, then they will bail on you and not have your back.
As you become successful, you will see both kinds of "Pests". Sometimes, when you know a little of what to expect, you can prepare yourself to be ready for what comes next.
Flowering Tree or Insect? - My last question to you is, do you want to be a flowering tree or an insect? I think a lot of people, before the flower with success, may be a GOOD "Pest" and try to learn from those who have gone before and model some habits in their lives to be successful. Not only do you learn, but, just like some insects carry pollen and spread those plants even making them more fruitful, you increase someone else's success and therefore you are successful in your job as well, whether or not you ever become a "flowering tree" yourself. However if you are a BAD "Pest" and you spend your time and effort belittling someone else's success or try to actually stop their success to increase your own, you may actually see some results, but after you have done your damage, there will be nothing left for you to survive either.
Remember: Good or Bad insects don't have a lifespan as long as a tree. You may want to change gears eventually and learn to become a Flowering Tree of Success!
Until Next Time!
Jen Lush--Associate Broker and Mother of Managing Broker Photo Credit: LuAnn Hunt