I don't know how many of you out there are like me, but, sometimes I don't feel like I have any "gifts". I mean I can do things...lots of things...but if someone asked me about my "gifts" I would be hard pressed to just list something. I always have felt like it means "something special". However, when I Googled the definition, this is what I got "gift - a natural ability or talent." I think I usually get stuck on the word talent and see in my head the boundless shows on TV with people doing extraordinary things! But talent is AFTER "a natural ability". We ALL have a natural ability at something! THAT is our GIFT. So, now that we all know that, how do we make the most of our natural abilities?!
Different Purpose - I think in looking at myself, I have a natural ability to be a care giver. I have been a mom, Nana, daughter (who cared for an ill mother), wife and friend to others. But, everyone pretty much cares for those around them. So, how do I take that natural ability of mine and make the most of it? I find another purpose for it. How can I use those skills for the betterment of not only my life, but for those I come in contact with? Can I use that skill at my job? How about in the community? These are the types of questions you need to ask yourself to use your natural abilities to the best of your ability.
Different Person - We can also decide to use some of abilities on someone new. I have a friend who recently had an ill husband and she was caring for him for quite a while. He has since passed away and she was telling me she was thinking of volunteering at a nursing home. She has decided to use her care giving skills for other people other than family. Using our gifts to benefit someone new is a great way to make the most of them. When I was a young mom, sometimes all I felt I could do was watch kids. I didn't even feel like I could clean very well! So, there were times I babysat. I realize I am being very basic and literal here, but, if you have the gift of organization, or a natural talent with numbers or you have the greenest thumb you know, all of these gifts may become something totally different if you use them to help someone else.
Different Path - Maybe your gift can be used in a totally different way than you have ever used it before. Way back before computer days (I know, some of you can't imagine a time like that) we had personal typing classes. I really enjoyed typing, and got nearly perfect grades in that class! However, I never thought that "gift" would amount to anything unless I was a secretary some day. (Seriously, that is what I thought!). But, as you all know, I use my typing skills every single day in ways I never ever thought I would. First it was to just do something like type a bulletin for a church, then later I used it to design a website and now, I use it for all sorts of things--too many things to list. I used to get into trouble for all the talking I did in school when I was little, however, using that ability to talk about anything has come in handy for all sorts of different purposes in my life! My son has an amazing gift in which he always sees details in everything. There have been times it has annoyed his siblings with this ability, but, it has been an amazing gift when he has used it for his job! His penchant for noticing every detail is one of his gifts that makes him such an amazing Realtor. Think outside the typical box and see how you can use your gifts differently.
Different Perspective - I think in order to make the most of your personal gifts is to change your perspective. You have to DECIDE to look at your ordinary gifts with EXTRAORDINARY purposes in mind. Look at yourself like you would look at someone else with some of your skills. How would you put their skills to work? What would you suggest to that person if they feel useless and un-talented? Then try using your gifts in the best way possible. Once you start to believe in who you are and what you can offer, you never know what road that will take you on. Sometimes, we can't even dream up the wonderful roads we will travel, so be open to using your gifts in the best ways possible!
Until Next Time!
Jen Lush--Associate Broker and Mother of Managing Broker