When you consider what it takes to make a house a HOME, one of the most important things that makes this happen, is something we have no control over and that is: TIME. It's one of those things that seems to take forever before you get to where you need to be and always seems like it flew by when you are at your destination. Since we can't control time, what can we do to "measure" where we are and what we can help along to get there faster.
Time to Learn - One way to help your house start to feel more like home is to get to know your surroundings. Find a favorite restaurant close by. Look for a park to walk your dog in or find the closest grocery store or drug store for when you are in a pinch. Look for a gas station near by and maybe a pizza spot (with delivery of course). Taking the time to learn about your new surroundings will give you comfort that you know where to go when you need something. The more comfortable and safe you feel, the more it will be home.
Time to Listen - It takes a bit of time to learn all the new sounds at your new house. Weird pops or squeaks can be unsettling--even terrifying depending on what it is! One of the places we moved to had the loudest refrigerator making the weirdest noises and at first it was really startling because we were in a smaller house than we were used to with an open concept and every sound echoed in that house! When we moved to our current house, our dresser was transported upside down with things still in the drawers, and I had a music box in one of the drawers and the second night we slept at our new house, the music box started to play at 4am...talk about being terrifying! Houses pop and creak with weather changes, not to mention when a furnace kicks on or off, the house may make a sound or two. The only way to learn these sounds is by living in the house a while. Each season may bring a new sound as well! This summer, we have had a loud POP hit every evening about 8pm. Not sure why it's happening, but, I assume it has to do with the warmth outside and the sun on the west side of our house. It was freaky at first, now we just know it's 8:00!
Time to Live - Most of all, it flat just takes time to live in the house before it feels like a home. Figuring out new routines in the house, what 'works-better-where' with your belongings and which lights on or off even make the space "feel" good to you. Even finding where you have the best phone signal (or not, in my case!) makes a difference as to how comfortable you feel. The most I can tell you about time is a little piece of advice I received after the birth of my third child. It seems to apply to all sorts of things and it has been a stand by for me ever since: when you hit month number one, you get into a good routine with your new life. By month three, you are not only well into a routine but it begins to feel more NORMAL. By the 6 month mark, your new circumstances usually feel so comfortable you can barely remember what it was like before! This formula has helped me get through lots of situations that were challenging. I have to say, only once did it NOT work that way, and that was because we weren't supposed to stay in that place for very long. It served a purpose and that was it. After that move, was the last one we had and the formula even worked SOONER than expected for me, so it all worked out as it should.
I hope some of these ideas and tricks will help you adjust with your new house. I also hope, that if the fear of something new is keeping you from moving on, that this will help ease that anxiety and you can move on to find that new house that will become your wonderful home--and if you need some help with that task, I know a few good people to send your way!
Until Next Time!
Jen Lush - Associate Broker and Mother of Managing Broker