You have heard it said that our homes are our castles. I don't think I would be comfortable in a castle, so for me, I like to think of my home as my SAFE PLACE. It's a place for me to be safe from the elements, safe from others (if that is how I want it) and safe to be myself. Some of us struggle with being living freely in our homes. Here are a few things to help you to settle in to your Safe Place!
Comfort is Essential - In order to live freely in our homes, we need to be comfortable. Comfortable furniture, comfortable atmosphere and comfortable in how we perform our daily tasks. All of us care about our level of comfort whether we think we do or not. You may look at someone else and not understand how they can be "comfortable" if they live a certain way, but all of us are different and focus on different areas and different comfort levels. Everyone that lives in your home should have some level of comfort.
Be Free, But Don't Tread On Others - In a household where more than one person lives, like I said above, we all should have some level of comfort. However, that doesn't give you the right to tread on someone else's freedom in the home. Our children need to feel safe and free to be themselves at home, but, if their behavior destroys your freedom (or others) it's crossing the line. There is a push and pull in a family to live the way we want, the way our family wants and the compromise in between. Treating others with respect is something that we all need to have, but, for some it's not just a natural response. They need to be taught it. Others may give in to others needs so much that they feel trapped in their own homes because they have no choices. You don't want to feel that way and you don't want your family to feel that way. So, be kind to each other. Respect your family and they will respect you.
Get Inspired/But Do What Works for You - A lot of us would love to have a beautiful home that would stay that way and be photograph ready all the time. So be inspired by the beautiful decor in homes you see, but, in order to feel free in your space, have what works for you and your family. Sometimes some beautiful things aren't comfy and they don't stay beautiful if they are even used at all, so, keep that in mind as you make your choices. If you want your kids to enjoy their rooms, let them have some choices in what they like or they won't use them much. It's the same for you! Why would you want to use your home office, if it isn't designed right for you? Use what works for you.
Structure Matters - In a home, whether you live alone or have a family, having some sort of structure in your life does matter. You may not realize how much it makes a difference until you apply some structure to your life! My dog is even happier when she can expect the same things at the same time during the day. I always thought if I were alone at home I could do whatever I wanted with no guilt or worry. HA! I still see things that need to be done and honestly, when I have some sort of plan (even for myself) I feel a lot better by the end of the day. There is nothing like completing tasks each day. A sense of accomplishment can go a long way in making a person feel free.
Living free in your home is an amazing thing. It's great when everyone comes home and can be themselves and enjoy each other. Even now, all my grown kids come home and I hope that they always feel like they can go to the fridge when they want, that they can relax for a while and just be themselves. I will always want my SAFE PLACE to be theirs, too, even if they have a FREE SAFE PLACE of their own!
Until Next Time!
Jen Lush--Associate Broker and Mother of Managing Broker Photo Credit: Paolo Nicolello