As another decade comes to a close, and a whole new one begins, I look back at the things I have learned. If I needed to write a blog about ALL the things I have learned over the years, I would never STOP writing it, because life itself is a Master Class in lessons. However, over the last one especially, these four have stuck out to me more than the rest:
I like adventure more than I expected - I am a routine person and generally speaking, my routine is my comfort zone. It's the place I feel most alive and happy! However, this last year I have done a few tasks that I have never done before and I have truly enjoyed the adventure of it all! Granted, it's not sky diving or rock climbing adventure, but, for me these new little things are adventures for me and I have LOVED every minute of it! What is even more satisfying is, not all of the adventures ended the way I wanted and I still enjoyed doing the adventurous tasks! This little nugget of truth has really opened my eyes a bit to who I am and what I am capable of. Can you look back at this past year and see something in yourself you never saw before? I challenge you to try it!
Fear is a "4 Letter Word" - One of the biggest things that has been a hindrance in my life is FEAR. Not the screaming kind, but, the inside nervous energy that keeps you from doing things you really want to do. The kind that stifles growth in your life. The kind that kills relationships. I have grown to hate FEAR with a passion and have decided it's a nasty, foul word. This lesson I can't say that I have mastered or learned completely, but, I HAVE learned that I need to fight it EVERY SINGLE DAY. I have faced some fears and won this year! Can you look back at this past year and see the fears you faced head on and won against?!
Family is my world - Honestly my family has been my world from the beginning of my life, however, this year it has become really clear to me that it doesn't matter the sacrifices I have made for my family, I wouldn't trade any of them to be able to do something else in my life. In my young married life, I never worked outside the home and always wondered if I did myself a dis-service by not doing SOMETHING. Now, I have an actual 'career path' and I am loving it--way more than I thought I would--but, NOT more than my family. Not more than the memories I share with all of them, immediate and extended. Not more than even the hard times, the hurtful times or the times I would wonder what it would be like to be totally care free and not have to answer to ANYONE. All of them have made me who I am today, the family members I have been closest to and the family members that were put on this earth to teach me hard lessons and to sand down my hard corners. Love sometimes isn't enough. I have learned to truly appreciate the strong bonds I have had in my family ties. Appreciation can be work, but, it's something we need to have for the things we love in our lives.
I still believe in dreams - Age is a funny thing. My mother once told me that no matter how old she got, on the inside she still felt the same as she did when she was about 11 or so--you know, that age where you first start to see the "real" world. From that moment on, you learn a lot of harsh realities and some of our hopes and dreams fade when we see the road our life takes us on. Sometimes down my road of life, I felt that I gave up a lot of personal dreams. Some that were sort of ridiculous (let's be honest) but others I still have wondered about. Some I will continue to hope and dream for until I take my last breath. I have learned that dreaming is OK no matter what age you are and even if they don't come true, it doesn't hurt you or those around you for you to keep hoping for a dream or two, in fact, it actually is good for your frame of mind as you get older and good for those around you because if you are full of hopes and dreams, you can encourage those around you to be full of them as well!
As you look back at this year and all the lessons you have learned, look at the things in your life where you still see "you". That "11-year-old-dream-filled-self" that had so much hope for the future. The one who would fight for the the things they loved. The person who appreciated the small things in life and who maybe had arguments with others but forgave so quickly. The person who could get back up and keep moving forward, believing they could do anything. That person is still YOU and I am sure you will find moments when that person shined!
Until Next Year!
Jen Lush--Associate Broker, Mom, Grandma and Assistant to Managing Broker Son Photo Credit: Tim Mossholder