"Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment, until it becomes a memory". Dr. Seuss
As I sit in my home office, with my husband working from home about 12 feet from me, and I contemplate what all is going on in this world, I continue to make a choice every day to look for the "silver lining" in a very dark and scary storm. It seems every day at some point I lose sight of the "silver lining" and have to keep redirecting my thoughts from fear to hope. As I do that, I will keep putting these steps in my life DAILY if I need to, until we come out of this on the other side...
Look Back - I have been looking back at hard moments in my life and finding the ones that now have good memories associated with them. For instance, one year, we knew some bad weather was headed our way, and a couple of grown children of mine (and their families) came to our home to be "snowed in" because it was safer for them with their kids. So for three days, while I was fighting a nasty cold, I mothered about 16 people. It sounds a little like a nightmare, but, honestly, I forgot about how I really felt and just enjoyed my family. All of us talk about that time and continue to consider it a good memory. Other times, there have been horrible things we have gone through that we are now on the other side, and I look back thinking of how strong it has made me or a member of my family. I didn't think I would make it through some of those times....but we did. So take a look back....and remember, some day we will be looking back at this too!
Be Purposeful - While you are going through a difficult time, be purposeful with the things you do to try to have good memories attached at a bad time. When my mother was in the hospital dying, my sisters and I were at her bedside and while we were there, we sang songs to her, we talked about memories we had of her, we cried, we prayed and we told her it was okay to go. Later one of those nights while we were staying at a local hotel to be close to her, we three talked in the dark and even had a few moments of laughter about how we "gave Mom permission to go" and she didn't go! That sounds like a dark joke, but, it was a way that we all were thinking of how strong our mother always was, even though she was at her weakest we all had ever seen in her life. She was still Mom. That was one of the hardest times of my life, but, my sisters and I still look at some of that time fondly now. Already during this pandemic, I am purposefully collecting memories of things that have made my days better and I am going to cherish them long after we are on the other side of this!
Pay Attention - Not only try to make the moments, but, pay attention to the ones that are happening now. I remember after 9/11 how the American flag was everywhere. People wore t-shirts with the flag on it. It wasn't any particular political party that did it--everyone did. People came together and mourned together. We all shared our fears and sorrow. Moments are happening now, in this crisis, and we just need to pay attention and appreciate them. People going out of their way to make students happy while they are out of school, or people working together to make masks for those who need them. Look around you. What do you see happening in the midst of this storm?
Make a Landmark - I am not going to put scripture in a "work" blog, but, I remember this sermon I heard about 30 years ago that was about the prophet Samuel setting up a stone of help (called an Ebenezer) to remember what had taken place in that spot. How God had helped the Israelites win a battle over the Philistines. The minister went on to talk about how we need to commemorate places in our life where God carried us to victory. Whether you believe or not, it's important to set up landmarks of victory in our lives. Write it down in a journal or make something artistic (if you are so inclined) to remember, or create a special day to celebrate every year at the same time what victory you won. A lot of us use photography to remember those big, victorious moments. Little victories matter, too. Make landmarks of the things that are helping you be victorious now.
Our lives are filled with moments. Somehow, we need to be better at valuing those moments well before they are just memories.
Keep Safe Everyone!
Jen Lush--Associate Broker with Fond Memories in Hard Times Photo Credit: MI PHAM