Let's face it, when we are down we want someone else to lift us up. However, the best way to keep our spirits up is to practice good habits that help us do that for ourselves.
Realize the Negative - An initial anxious thought might be helpful to us because it gets our attention to help us focus on something we may need to, like don't eat that second piece of cake, or the traffic light might change soon, so slow down. But, if we dwell on negative thoughts constantly this will not only bring our mood down but even keep us from doing things we need to do at times. Use a negative thought as a reminder, not a place to live.
Look Away - A change of scenery will help you as well. If you are sitting looking out of a window on a dark and rainy day, stop doing that and look at something more positive, or even get out! A change of pace may may be better for you just because it's different, so try it!
Positive Self Talk - Stop saying all those negative things to and about yourself in your head. Replace it with positive thoughts. Talk to yourself like you are asking a friend about how they are feeling. This will put you in "coach mode" and help your brain to see the ways in which you can work on things and to see yourself as you would someone else. Would you tell a friend they are stupid for making a mistake? Then don't do that to yourself!
Remind & Repeat - Look back at the times you did well at something, like past victories, no matter how small and while you are at it, practice on a skill that you have to become even better at it. It's hard to see yourself in a bad light when you are improving something you are already good at and when you remember how you overcame obstacles. Remind yourself of what you can do and practice your skills to make them even better.
Share With Caution - When you are going through a hard time and you want to talk to someone, share with someone who will be empathetic, but who will still help you to see the overall picture. Misery loves company, so don't give into that with someone who will help you feel even worse about things. Also, going on an on about any bad thing more than you need to may just bring you down in general. Sometimes, it's better to not share if you think it will just make things worse.
Move It! - One other way to lift your spirits is to move. Like, go for a walk! A little exercise (especially in the sunshine) can lift your mood right away. Not only does it help relieve stress, but it helps lift your self worth. Pick something you like to do so that it will encourage you to do it more often, too.
Believe & Remember - Always believe and remember that YOU MATTER. Find medical providers that are attentive to your needs (like you would help a loved one find a good doctor) and take care of yourself in a way that you might take care of a loved one who needed it. Don't put yourself last because if you really feel others are more important than you are, how can you help them if you aren't healthy or mentally well to do so yourself?
Depression is a serious issue and these little tips may not help someone who needs medical attention for depression, but, they can help as a gauge to see if your mood is something you just need to lift up yourself, or if you need someone's help professionally. Like I have said throughout this blog, you need to look at and take care of yourself like you would someone you love so that you can stay mentally healthy and happy.