One thing about getting older is (hopefully) you learn a few good lessons along the way!
Time Keeps Moving - When I was younger, it seemed that time moved so slow and waiting for a holiday or special occasion seemed it would never come. Now, it seems time moves faster and faster. Which can be disturbing, but, in most cases it has been a good thing. Those moments when the world feels like it is crumbling and you think you can't get through the day, you find that before you know it that day has passed and you have moved on to another. It can be comforting knowing that "this too shall pass". Of course, the flip side is the wonderful moments don't last forever either, so you need to treasure every one that comes along!
Grudges Give You Tummy Aches - When we are young, we find that when we get hurt it's hard to forgive. We want to hold on to whatever has hurt us. I have learned that doing that leads to sleepless nights and nausea among other things; so I have learned that I need to "let it go". Holding on to those things only hurts ourselves. You can learn from the situation to be sure you try to avoid it in the future, however, the quicker you let it go, the quicker it doesn't have power over you anymore.
Kindness Works - In all situations, start out with being kind. In a lot of cases it may diffuse a situation quicker than anything else you might do. In other situations, someone else may be upset no matter how kind you are. Being kind is still the best way to go because it means you kept yourself in control and did the right thing no matter how ugly someone was to you. Your behavior sticks with others even when they are losing it. In fact, I bet if you had a day when it was your worst day ever and you were unkind to someone else and they were kind in return, you probably remember that and even felt bad about how you were acting. We remember strangers for when they smiled at us or had a kind word just when we needed it. Be that person for someone else and even if they don't pass that back to you, maybe they will pass that on to someone else down the road.
Being Right Isn't Always Best - This is something that I will probably continue to struggle with until they put me in the ground. EVERYONE loves to be right. NO ONE wants to be wrong. Period. In certain situations, it's important to be right. If you are a teacher, you want to know your facts and teach them correctly. However, there are some areas in life that even if you know you are right, you need to step aside and let it go because pushing to be right can ruin a relationship, whether it be friendship, marriage, family or work situation. Sometimes it's best to let the other person be wrong and find out what that means for them. Other times, you may learn you were the person who was actually wrong the whole time and you have your own lessons to learn from that. Every person has their own perception of things too, so certain things that appear right to you may not seem that way to someone else. Proving how right you are might give you satisfaction for a moment, but, it can be causing hurt to the other person and be a strike against your relationship. Is being "right" really worth alienating those around you? I don't think so. Do what is best.
Down Time is a Must - I have found that I operate better in all aspects of my life if I have down time to myself, at least a little, every single day. If I run on full blast all the time, I get sick, I am tired and when I am tired that affects everything else in my life. Being tired makes me hungrier, grouchier and mentally slower than I already am! All of those things affect how I am with others and what kind of mood I may be in as well. If I want to work at my best capacity, I need to have some quality downtime.
I know none of these points are great, mind blowing tips. In fact, I think sometimes following the most simple of tips is the best way to go and unfortunately, we seem to only follow those as a last resort. We like to think the more complex or difficult something is the more value it can have to make us a better person. This is so not true. It's the little things that can make the biggest impact at times. Think of how a small, tiny virus took over an entire planet last year. Now think of how awesome it would be if a small, simple task like being kind could take over the planet. Wouldn't that be the best global pandemic ever?!