We all have our different ideas of what being a "good neighbor" means. Some neighborhoods have great block parties and organized activities, while others just live quietly on the same street. I used to have this idea that a good neighbor was there for EVERYTHING and I wasn't all that great because I wasn't best friends with the lady across the street. But, I have moved around a lot and learned what a good neighbor means to me. Here are characteristics of what a good neighbor is whether you are besties with your next door neighbor or not:
Friendly, Not Nosy - A good neighbor will try to get to know you, but they won't pry into your business. If your neighbor shares with you about themselves, that is ok, but don't push beyond what they want to tell you. You don't need to know all the neighbors' secrets. For one, it can be a lot to carry and two you certainly don't want to be tempted to share their private lives. That is up to them to share with others!
Will Respect Your Differences - A neighbor may live a completely different lifestyle than you live, but a good neighbor won't let that be a problem. They will respect your differences. You may be an empty nester, but the family down the road may have small children. Respect that their priorities about their lawn or house might be different than yours. The hours a neighbor may keep may be different than yours because of the job they have, so be kind if they are mowing at a time you don't expect or if they start their loud truck early in the morning every day. They are just trying to live their lives like you are.
Keeps an Eye Out - A good neighbor will keep an eye out on your house when you are gone and let you know if someone is hanging around when they shouldn't. They will notice if you leave the hose on accidentally, or leave your front door open when you didn't mean to and they will offer a hand to help if needed to turn off that hose or call you to ask if you would like them to call the police for the person lurking around. Or they will watch out for that package if you ask them to if you can't be there to pick it up.
Considers Others Spaces - Making sure you respect your neighbor's property by keeping your car away from their driveway or their mailbox. If they have a fence right next to your property, do you best not to damage it. Treat your neighbor's property like you would want yours to be treated.
Forgives Easily - If a neighbor does make a mistake, learn to let it go. Don't hold grudges. You may have to live by them for a very long time and you don't want to be miserable in your own neighborhood. If you forgive for wrongdoings, hopefully your neighbors will forgive you for your mistakes too.
Your home is a special place. Your want it to be your sanctuary. The more peace and harmony you have with your neighbors, the better your home will feel for years to come!
Until Next Time!
Jen Lush--Associate Broker and Comfortable Neighbor