When you have a new home, all of the members of your household view things in a different way. The kids may see some features you don't and even the family pets may have an opinion! Here are some things to consider as you have your new home search, or why you may want to start one if you can!
Adult's View on Feeling Safe: If you are an adult, there are a lot of things you may consider as to what may make you feel safe in a home, from where the home is located to how the home is built. This feeling of safety can mean very different things even between partners in a new space as well. One person may actually need a home security system to feel safe while another it might just mean having good window coverings! Check in with your partner as to what they need to feel as safe as they can in your new home. before you set about looking for that ideal space. No matter how beautiful a home is, if you don't feel safe, you won't want to spend a lot of time there and it may lead to losing money on a new home because you want to sell too soon. Buying a home isn't like buying a pair of shoes. You can't just "return" it when it doesn't fit right!
Child's View on Feeling Safe: When it comes to feeling safe in a home, a child's perspective can be completely different than yours! It probably won't be an alarm system or window coverings they will care about, it will be how comfortable they feel in their room or play space. The more it feels familiar, the more safe it will seem to them. Sometimes the lighting in a new space may freak a kid out! When my granddaughters moved into a new home they had this cool light that made a pattern all over the room. I thought they would love that, but it was unsettling to them. It didn't make them feel safe at all! When I was a child, we moved into this furnished house that had a really cool half finished basement. I was about 9 or 10 and my parents even put an extra TV down there for me. But, the unfinished side gave me the creeps. There was a huge cedar chest on that side and even though there was a door between the finished and unfinished side, I had all these imaginative thoughts of what could be in that locked chest. Being alone down there was scary sometimes. Sometimes I felt safe. Sometimes I didn't. It would even just depend on the day. Most kids will have some anxiety when you move into a new space. Don't be surprised if it is something that seems totally benign to you that scares them horribly. Take care to do your best to make them feel safe and listen to there fears. They may say that a certain thing about the house itself actually scares them when they feel basic anxiety just from the change of their space. Be patient with them. Kids are resilient and do adjust. It might just take a little bit.
Pet's View on Feeling Safe: For your pet, it may be even something else entirely that freaks them out. My animals in general have done well when we have moved. If they have their same bed, toys and their favorite piece of furniture to lay on (if you allow that) they usually will settle right in. The one thing that took more adjusting for my dogs was a change in the flooring. Going from carpeting to a harder flooring (like wood or vinyl) was more intimidating because they didn't have as much leverage to jump on the couch, or if they were running they might slide! You can fix some of that by adding a rug where they are, but mine eventually just got used to the changes and adjusted how they jumped up or ran in the house. Some animals might get bothered by different sounds. When we lived in a newer neighborhood and there was building going on all the time, the BEEP BEEP BEEP of a truck backing up scared my dog. She would have to go in the farthest room of the house so she couldn't hear it as well. It was unsettling when she first started spending so much time in the back bedroom, but after I figured it out, I didn't worry as much. Sometimes if I had music on a little louder, that helped. Another thing that may give you dog anxiety is a change in your schedule (as to when you are gone or home). Sometimes a new home happens because of a new job. Schedule changes can upset a pet. Try to keep their schedule as normal as possible and eventually they will adjust better as well.
There are so many facets as to what makes us feel safe or unsafe in our new home. Just keep that in mind that everyone feels safe in different ways. Have open discussions with all of your family and make sure you pets know you are paying attention too. Before you know it, your new home will feel just as safe and wonderful as your old home did--and hopefully even better!
Until Next Time!
Jen Lush--Associate Broker, Parent, Grandparent and Homeowner